LOVE diagnostics

What do i write next? lost in randomness... politics?... fights?...learning?... personality?...career? okay, here you go. all in one!! LOVE! this is gonna be it!! a bit of everything described above. something that influences our lives - either top down or bottom up! when asked to define love, people give me a million answers, the commonest one being "love is beyond definition!! "

I accept, to define love is as uncertain as finding your way out of the bermuda triangle. It is too difficult to say what love is.. but it is a bit easy to say what love is NOT.. (the principle of exclusion works here)

The first misconception comes from watching movies ,we see that love is triggered by looks. utter crap. you look at somebody and find them irresistibly hot ,you get a *kabing kaboom* feeling, absolutely not LOVE. Appreciating beauty is good ofcourse (turn your flirt indicators on) but don't let it mislead you. remember if this is gonna be the reason behind liking , i'm pretty sure- it is short lived.

second, don't decide love JUST by how comfy you are with the other.i have heard many say," love means to be comfortable with each other". agreed! when you are in love, you're comfortable with your counterpart! but remember- the viceversa is not true ! you might feel comfortable with many , you tend to mistake friendship for love, which pushes you into a trap of confusion where you will not be able to decide on anything or rather anyone. Alas! you remain stagnant!!

you see someone struggling very hard to eke out a living, and you feel sorry for that person and decide to be with them and help them out. this is called MERCY and not love. your efforts in bringing them up are very much laudable and don't spoil it by giving it THE NAME.

next,the degree of coolness has absolutely nothing to do with the FEELING.if you think that you love someone simply because you found them uber COOL, its "bull shit"!! very much happening!!

if you think love is about having someone to always say a "YES" for all that you do or ask for, you have a wrong perception.not fair. i think a "tape recorder" does a better job.

What is the way to become rich? - "marry a rich one!" if you think you like someone cause they gift you rolex watches ,or puma wear and others, or if you want RICHES,(driven by greed ) you decide to stay with him/her and say "we're in love!!" gibberish!

when you try to change yourself simply to IMPRESS someone, you're faking yourself.You choose to show very less of your character which might not work for long. cause habits die hard and all the joy you've had by doing that will live ,only till the real "you" is unveiled.

and most importantly , never get into a relationship, out of TEMPTATION.That moment when you find a burning sensation in your stomach,seeing your friends paired, happily enjoying life, and you say that you're gonna get one for yourself -don't!!!you are making a mistake! if you're doing that and you're happy, it is just a temporary reliever. not long lasting.

above all, love is not about preferential CHOICE MAKING ! if you go by that, its gonna fail again 'cause one is always better than another in the universe, so discard the idea.

I think these are enough to help you arrive at a conclusion if yours is IT. if yours doesn't belong to any of the above, CONGRATULATIONS!! you're on the right track!! if not, wait ... !! there are more fish in the sea ;)

CHANGE YOUR FACE OR FACE THE CHANGE??!!

You tend to go berserk when you receive an applause or when somebody turns just to take a second look or when people think you are awesome!! The feeling you get when you find that you have a follower – BLISS!! All the ‘wow’s and the ‘whoa’s project you into an anti-gravitational space! Where return to the earth is kinda impossible!! You keep floating and what fuels you is your attitude!! Some people can’t spell A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E!! A common misconception about attitude is that it means ‘showing off’. Yeah when you go by the slang it means that! “He is an attitude freak! Stay away” “That female just has too much of attitude! “ , are the regulars. “Change your attitude!!” Almost all of us would have been at the receiving end at least once in your life! (Doods! You’ve got to admit this if you have been in college) .To possess the right attitude is not very easy – I agree all the above sound gibberish. In today’s world , to possess ‘ attitude ‘ means to act indifferent, to be mean with wee bit of racist views and above all , a stupid thought that ‘I am superior to everyone on earth!!’ . But attitude is something that is inherent. It is internalization or rather how you look at your very own self!! Precisely, taking things in the right way is all it is about!

The real “Attitude” matters greatly because things will change just by the way you see yourself. Trust me. This really works. One should never try to be someone they are not. They can’t be blamed if they wear masks to cover their originality. This is so completely due to the fear of exposing themselves. This is one of the most happening issues in the society.I know many doods on facebook who are DP factories and are “like” predators. They are thirsty for an “uber cool” image (I am sorry your awesomeness :P ).Their fame increases with the number of likes they earn! It is fame though a little

lame!
Not to forget, there has been a secret tie up between photoshop and the social networking sites. And needless to mention, many girls use Photoshop more than their cosmetics (no offence ladies: P) reason? Obvio! Reality is the topsy turvy l!
Many girls carry a slutty image even when they are not one! The way they have projected themselves has caused all the difference.

Many try to act smart and stupidity prevails all over- be it workplace, or high school or grad school.
The reason behind this drama is that you are afraid of being bullied by arrogant pricks and by defending that, you end up becoming one. This is an infinite chain. Don’t take the risk of making an attempt to impress someone or trying to impersonate others for you will lose your own identity in the process. Not only that, you will disappoint people who like you for what you are.
And talking about inhibitions, stay open to challenges! Break the cocoon and get rid of the inertial behaviour.Don’t be timid, don’t be outrageous. Though a lil old fashioned, I would say “just carry yourself well.”
To add to the above, the right attitude + confidence + apt presentability and voila!
Something more powerful than CHEMICAL X!! Be yourself man!Cause there is only a single “YOU” in the universe!! Now enough of reading more on this step up with pride and conquer with a smile!!