LOVE diagnostics

What do i write next? lost in randomness... politics?... fights?...learning?... personality?...career? okay, here you go. all in one!! LOVE! this is gonna be it!! a bit of everything described above. something that influences our lives - either top down or bottom up! when asked to define love, people give me a million answers, the commonest one being "love is beyond definition!! "

I accept, to define love is as uncertain as finding your way out of the bermuda triangle. It is too difficult to say what love is.. but it is a bit easy to say what love is NOT.. (the principle of exclusion works here)

The first misconception comes from watching movies ,we see that love is triggered by looks. utter crap. you look at somebody and find them irresistibly hot ,you get a *kabing kaboom* feeling, absolutely not LOVE. Appreciating beauty is good ofcourse (turn your flirt indicators on) but don't let it mislead you. remember if this is gonna be the reason behind liking , i'm pretty sure- it is short lived.

second, don't decide love JUST by how comfy you are with the other.i have heard many say," love means to be comfortable with each other". agreed! when you are in love, you're comfortable with your counterpart! but remember- the viceversa is not true ! you might feel comfortable with many , you tend to mistake friendship for love, which pushes you into a trap of confusion where you will not be able to decide on anything or rather anyone. Alas! you remain stagnant!!

you see someone struggling very hard to eke out a living, and you feel sorry for that person and decide to be with them and help them out. this is called MERCY and not love. your efforts in bringing them up are very much laudable and don't spoil it by giving it THE NAME.

next,the degree of coolness has absolutely nothing to do with the FEELING.if you think that you love someone simply because you found them uber COOL, its "bull shit"!! very much happening!!

if you think love is about having someone to always say a "YES" for all that you do or ask for, you have a wrong perception.not fair. i think a "tape recorder" does a better job.

What is the way to become rich? - "marry a rich one!" if you think you like someone cause they gift you rolex watches ,or puma wear and others, or if you want RICHES,(driven by greed ) you decide to stay with him/her and say "we're in love!!" gibberish!

when you try to change yourself simply to IMPRESS someone, you're faking yourself.You choose to show very less of your character which might not work for long. cause habits die hard and all the joy you've had by doing that will live ,only till the real "you" is unveiled.

and most importantly , never get into a relationship, out of TEMPTATION.That moment when you find a burning sensation in your stomach,seeing your friends paired, happily enjoying life, and you say that you're gonna get one for yourself -don't!!!you are making a mistake! if you're doing that and you're happy, it is just a temporary reliever. not long lasting.

above all, love is not about preferential CHOICE MAKING ! if you go by that, its gonna fail again 'cause one is always better than another in the universe, so discard the idea.

I think these are enough to help you arrive at a conclusion if yours is IT. if yours doesn't belong to any of the above, CONGRATULATIONS!! you're on the right track!! if not, wait ... !! there are more fish in the sea ;)

CHANGE YOUR FACE OR FACE THE CHANGE??!!

You tend to go berserk when you receive an applause or when somebody turns just to take a second look or when people think you are awesome!! The feeling you get when you find that you have a follower – BLISS!! All the ‘wow’s and the ‘whoa’s project you into an anti-gravitational space! Where return to the earth is kinda impossible!! You keep floating and what fuels you is your attitude!! Some people can’t spell A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E!! A common misconception about attitude is that it means ‘showing off’. Yeah when you go by the slang it means that! “He is an attitude freak! Stay away” “That female just has too much of attitude! “ , are the regulars. “Change your attitude!!” Almost all of us would have been at the receiving end at least once in your life! (Doods! You’ve got to admit this if you have been in college) .To possess the right attitude is not very easy – I agree all the above sound gibberish. In today’s world , to possess ‘ attitude ‘ means to act indifferent, to be mean with wee bit of racist views and above all , a stupid thought that ‘I am superior to everyone on earth!!’ . But attitude is something that is inherent. It is internalization or rather how you look at your very own self!! Precisely, taking things in the right way is all it is about!

The real “Attitude” matters greatly because things will change just by the way you see yourself. Trust me. This really works. One should never try to be someone they are not. They can’t be blamed if they wear masks to cover their originality. This is so completely due to the fear of exposing themselves. This is one of the most happening issues in the society.I know many doods on facebook who are DP factories and are “like” predators. They are thirsty for an “uber cool” image (I am sorry your awesomeness :P ).Their fame increases with the number of likes they earn! It is fame though a little

lame!
Not to forget, there has been a secret tie up between photoshop and the social networking sites. And needless to mention, many girls use Photoshop more than their cosmetics (no offence ladies: P) reason? Obvio! Reality is the topsy turvy l!
Many girls carry a slutty image even when they are not one! The way they have projected themselves has caused all the difference.

Many try to act smart and stupidity prevails all over- be it workplace, or high school or grad school.
The reason behind this drama is that you are afraid of being bullied by arrogant pricks and by defending that, you end up becoming one. This is an infinite chain. Don’t take the risk of making an attempt to impress someone or trying to impersonate others for you will lose your own identity in the process. Not only that, you will disappoint people who like you for what you are.
And talking about inhibitions, stay open to challenges! Break the cocoon and get rid of the inertial behaviour.Don’t be timid, don’t be outrageous. Though a lil old fashioned, I would say “just carry yourself well.”
To add to the above, the right attitude + confidence + apt presentability and voila!
Something more powerful than CHEMICAL X!! Be yourself man!Cause there is only a single “YOU” in the universe!! Now enough of reading more on this step up with pride and conquer with a smile!!

for a change. . .

After weeks of struggle i pick my pen to get back to writing business. . .
something struck me. . let it be a different one this time . . my new venture in tamil
this is how it goes...

Kanneerudan amarndhirunda ennai
Kadhari azhaithadhu yen diary...
Viralgalil nadukkam
Vizhigalil mayakkam
Azhugaiyai niruthiyapadi
Ezhudha thodanginen oru ithihaasam

"Manakolathil nee ....
Maname illadha naan
Unnaval unnarugil nirka
Oru oramaai nirkiren ....
Seyarkai punnagai yen udhadugalil
Pugaippadam!
uraindadu anda nimidam...
Kallaai urainda yen
idhayam pola .....
Ni yennai veruthaalum
un nalam vizhaiyum yen manam...
Mudiavillai - mudivillai
Mudhal kaadhal -
Vaarthai alla nanbane ni azhithu ezhudha,
Suvadu!!
Maraiaadhu ..."
Udaikkiren pena munaiyai
Kadavulin Kadumaiyaana Theerpai Yedhirthu


Kanneerudan .....




P.s : for those who dont understand tamil ( its a poetic description of love failure highlighting the pain and beauty of first love)

rakhi -The thread that linked u and me

raksha bandhan . A day which means a lot to me .I didnt have an own brother . so i owned a brother :) You have been there with me always, given me enough love and even more :) You mean a lot to me :) :)


words least express my love and care for you
its sad and bad that am not beside you
on the day which tells who we are
my love for you is infinite though we live far
Being your sister, feels like heaven
be with me my brother ,
forever and ever
however crazy i might be
u fill my life with fun and glee
to you i bow
with lots of love

YOUR LOVING SIS
aarthi rajagopalan

P.S : dedicated to all the brothers i owned

HAPPY RAKSHA BANDHAN EVERYONE
(dont forget to send me gifts :P lol)

What It Takes To Be A Woman

........"And its a baby girl " . The feminine marathon begins here .Life starts with the learning to walk slowly ,with the love and caresses showered by her parents . The special feeling that comes when she is pampered – bliss . A ride on Papa’s back , a kiss on mama’s cheek , endless conversation with her favorite Barbie doll, days and nights spent with alex, Charlie and ruth in their small clubhouse – these might sound dumb to most of you reading this. But this is the only phase that a girl enjoys in her life. Calm before a storm.

As time exponentially increases, she grows up physically, and emotionally. And adolescence welcomes her with a wide hug and troubles welcome her with a smirk. The earlier days of adolescence are spent with her Friendster community. Sleepovers , Hang outs , picnics with classmates are a few to mention. “hey check that hunk out” “omigosh hes so cute” this is where the real game begins. makeup kits, deodrants become her paraphernalia. This is when she checks her dressing and she becomes very keen about her looks. what really makes me think is “ where the hell did this concern for beauty come from?” it wasn’t there all these years .Ofcourse you had blemishes on your face ,and you never bothered to notice and why do you fuss about having one now? its totally dumb when u say that its gonna be your full time job improving your looks. My dear parlour animals better not come out as the sun might mar your beauty.Beauty is chastity of the heart. Looks fade with time but the beauty of the soul is an exception.To my babies trying to eke a living , casting aside the sarcasms thrown on their looks , break the shell and see the sun. A girl is marked "a slut" if she has a lot of guy friends and is said to have attitude if she doesnt mingle with any.She is called a cry baby if she is fussy and sensitive. DONT GIVE A DAMN.

Love.The next phase. its something that she experiences from her inside. she expects nothing but unconditional love from her counterpart(selfish women don’t count) this is the time when she knows whom she is made for. And if she gets married to the same guy ,her life attains completion .
The other side of the coin, unfortunately have misunderstood the meaning of marriage. Tears become their weapon. They incarnate as Shopping animals. Beastly raiding of shops in the malls begin putting the credit cards of the mutilated souls(husbands am referring to) on red alert. ladies! please restrain. think for a second before youre done! Don’t be a spendthrift. Try supporting your husbands and spend with a futuristic approach!
Over to the men whose pastime is making love and moving on- to break a girl’s heart is a sin with no salvation. So don’t you dare!!

Mother-an abode of love. According to the Bible , the world was created in 6 days.But the long journey that we are still continuing started from a small dark world - A world of silence, A world of purity , A world where pollution is an alien word- A mother's womb. As every girl knows ,to be one is not very easy .My dear male chauvanists, you can realize this only when you see it from behind a girl’s retina. Hitler was such a great man . But he became unobtrusive because of his misogynistic views .Women are not child bearing machines. Today technology has advanced so much that a “child bearing machine” can be invented in a jiffy but artificiality loses to real affection.And mother is a mother no matter what. hats off to all the homemakers for its because of them the art of home making is still alive. house is something built with bricks home is something built with love. A mother is the only soul in the world with unquantifiable love. Times change , and so do people. but mothers love never does.take math for help. a constant cannot be differentiated
its integration yields us a higher degree
and it is unperturbed with respect to variables(riches, looks and a few)
I use this article to thank my mother for being there for me inspite of my craziness and a lot of negative attributes I carry .
Mothers are angels sent to earth.
They fill the space with care and peace,
and with their love they make it complete.

According to research sciences, a woman is physically weaker compared to men. It is a major setback. but women have taken chances and have broken the barriers to prove themselves. Life for a girl is not a cake walk. at the end of the day,The early years of innocence is all that we have to cherish .
"Life that we lead is a game with no clues
going through myriads of hurdles ,maltreatment and sexual abuse;
Striving to save humanity
fighting many a hostility
The world we try to alter
but we will never falter.... "
PROUD TO BE A WOMAN

THE VOICE " INSIDE"

There are times when I used to wonder about the significance of the word "DIFFERENCE" . we have a country of diversified heritage -INDIA. Looking at it closely its only pieces of barren land put together.To the people the word UNITY sounds like greek and latin . The only thing that unifies them is the different lives they lead.
Tall MN C's , Clean roads, an avalanche of aristocrats , a pool of cars , developed localities capture the viewer's sight . The other side of the coin has faced many a catastrophe. Bewildered faces, deserted streets, uneven roads , worn out cycles shabbily parked form the other side of the country . Starvation is their anthem. Hunger is their soul mate.The quest for food is their enigma.

Apparently difference is not mere a word. there is a WORLD of difference. who created this? Who is to blame? Is it the politicians who have signed a pact with luxury for eternity? or the industrialists who value money more than humanity? or the social critics who throw criticisms thinking its their birth right but eventually giving birth to futility? or the dormant part of the human race which knows no other word except "I"? Everyone is created with index fingers to point to someone.If this is going to be the notion about creation of mankind, am dead sure -the world is approaching its end.

Bare words buy no barley. If you are going to wait for the others to start , it is vanity that is going to survive at the end . You need not be an ambani to start an initiative .Always remember a hundred rupee note is made of hundred "one rupee coins" put together. Think big. Do bigger. Work hand in glove. Unite for the country. Make the other countries tilt their heads to witness the change. let us unite in elevating the depressed world , in helping them get their lost rights. We the people, are heading on a mission to extinguish the words "caste", "creed", "rich", "poor" . Call it patriotism , humanity or anything you want- Its the voice of the "INSIDE".

Evanescence

Gazing at the constellations
up and above
reviving my happy situations
with someone i loved

Bliss is that which
came my way
Brighter is how u
turned my day
Now i cant stop crying
I really gotta say
please dont leave me
here you stay. . .

where did you go?
projected into a place
with anti gravitational space....

my fingers have gaps in between
for you to fill yours in...
There is no success without "u"
there is no fun without "u"

come back once . . .
it has been months. .. .
enough of playing hide and seek
am becoming more and more weak

cant stand it anymore
Am already depressed to the core...
come back once...
come back once...

the times we spent
The things we lent
A lot they meant
Is this the end?!

Tell me this is a dream
A nightmare's Scream

As i live in quiet seclusion
my only companion is
Reminiscence
Orphaned by your
Evanescence.. ..